Everyday I see conservations go sideways. Very often they are my own. I want to prove I’m right, that I’m sided with righteousness. If I’m, I must be wrong. Does anybody want to be wrong?   What if I could find something in what a person says that has truth to it, and then agree? … Continue reading Disarming

I’ve been wresting with generosity. I think of it as offering what I have, and often a bit more than I would like. In my mind, it’s related to charity. Helping others out.  Generosity is often presented as a moral issue. I kind of spiritual quid pro quo. If I’m nice to a person, that … Continue reading Generosity

I sign onto Facebook everyday and see someone or something that is wrong. Something that rattles my cage. I have to correct them or tell someone, right? Surely a person will change when they are told they are wrong.  It almost never works. I know it almost works. Part of it may be because people … Continue reading Megaphone

A scene in lots of movies is when characters set up camp and decide who will take the watch while others sleep. Taking the watch is a sacred duty. It’s looking after other’s safety. In forming a community of any size an agreement is made to watch over each other’s shoulders. I allow other members … Continue reading Lookout