I'm often focused on what I want to correct in myself. What’s wrong with me? What could be better? There’s a lot of judgment in that. And of course problems are nearly endless. I’m good at finding what’s wrong. Jack Kornfield tells a story of a person meditating. At first the sound of a … Continue reading Chasing Problems
As I went food shopping, I was listening to Brené Brown’s podcast with Laverne Cox. They got to the rapid fire questions. Brené prompted Laverne with the question, “What is something other people often get wrong about you.” Laverne answered; “What other people say about me is none my business.” Those are good boundaries. … Continue reading None of My Business
Self-care is hard. Not the “Insta” self-care of spas and influencers, but really taking care of, and making time for my needs, and my wants that bring real joy. It’s not news that in our culture I’m not encouraged to take care of myself. I’m discouraged away from listening to my body. I’m encouraged to … Continue reading What Do I Really Need?
I was asked the other day “How would you define a heart-centric person?” It’s a challenging question, but here’s a shot. A heart-centric person is someone who understands and experiences themselves and others as inherently good. (Most of the time). Let’s define inherently good. Being inherently good doesn’t mean that a person can do … Continue reading Inherently Good, Most of the Time
I have a tumultuous relationship with being clever, or witty. For a long time, the height of my aspirations was to be clever. The first problem with that is that cleverness isn’t fun if no one recognizes my cleverness. And if I need recognition, I’m not acting out of my self-worth. My self-with doesn’t need … Continue reading Clever
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