When I see myself as a “helper” I’m likely to place a person I hope to partner with on a level below myself. This is obviously unequal. It leads to confusion and misunderstandings. One which is glaring will have already occurred: I think I am “better” than the person I’d like to help.
A partnership of equals does not mean our resources and strengths will be the same, but if I fail to acknowledge the strengths of a partner then we both lose. It will likely cause subtle or even overt conflict.