Asking is vulnerable; what makes it vulnerable? It’s the ways I predict the person I ask may reject me.
What are those predictions?
What do they say about how I think of the other person?
Are they kind, capricious? Benevolent, banal?
What do my predictions say about my relationship with that person?
Is it an eye to eye, peer to peer relationship of mutual respect?
Or does the person stand towering over me, imperious, and judgmental?
How do these thoughts and predictions serve me?
How do they reflect reality?
How might I change them and work with them if they don’t?